Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars. No matter what we do, this fact remains; men and women are from different worlds and are different. So, how do they end up marrying one another? Simple—they willingly compromise to create a lasting bond and love no difference can break.
This is not the case for dating, though. The willingness to compromise will not be instantly present so it is up to both parties to make it work. Most often than not, however, men are the ones left with the task to impress and to try to bring a date to the next level; and this is not easy. Differences come in the way. Differences are natural so men can’t really take them away from the scene no matter how romantic it may be. The least they can do is to counteract them with some extra efforts that will woo a girl and will help them score that second date. How are these extra efforts done? Hear girls cry out of satisfaction and read-between-the-lines.
“My first date with my current boyfriend is a simple chat over coffee, but it felt more than just that!”
Before asking her out, consider a couple of ideas on where to go and what to do. A rule of thumb— keep it simple. Try to keep a first date as casual as possible. Avoid threatening and awkward ambiances like a rock concert (which is too loud to allow space for some getting-to-know-each-other time) or a too romantic dinner date in a fancy restaurant with all the works (which will make her feel like as if you are about to propose marriage). Talk time is an important part of a first date.
“The best date I have had made me feel like as if we are a perfect match. He didn’t groom himself too much nor did he appear ugly. I felt like as if he tried to groom based on how I usually groom myself.”
Don’t stress too much about dressing for a date. Just maintain a clean appearance, and of course dress according to the place you plan to bring your date to!
“The perfect date I’ve had was with a guy who looked at me in the eye while I talk and responded to me accordingly.”
Listen. You took her out on a date because you would like to know her better. You are not going to be able to do that if you will just consistently rant about yourself.
“I loved that my guy showed me how interesting he is on our first date. It made me want to know him more, the same way he’d wanted to know me better.”
Listen but keep up with the conversation. If you have something relevant and interesting to share, go ahead and say it! Don’t get too personal, though. Keep everything at a friendly-level. Leave the rest for the second date.
“His car is not as good as my ex’s, but its tidiness made me feel special. I thought of him cleaning it especially for our date.”
Your wheels can tell a lot about you. You may love it as it is, but building a good impression requires you to prepare it for a date. Let it be a practice for you. Remember, taking care of your car is also like taking care of your future girl.
“He brought me flowers!”
It may appear too traditional to you, but a rose still makes a girl’s heart jump of joy more than a box of chocolate does.
“We went out to have coffee and after I’ve told him how much I miss ice skating, he instantly came up with the idea of doing it there and then!”
Too much romance may make a girl feel awkward, but sincere sweetness will surely touch her heart. Come up with activity ideas that she’ll enjoy doing.
“My perfect date was perfectly planned. He’s done everything perfectly during the actual date. And I was even more delighted to know that he asked my bestfriend what I might want for a date prior to the event.”
Go the extra mile and do your homework. Not only will your efforts pay, but she’ll also surely be giggling over your sweetness after finding out how you prepared for the date.
“He picked me up at home and surprised me with a bouquet of flowers for my mom!”
A girl will surely appreciate if you care not just about her, but to other people around her as well. Making extra gestures to make her feel how serious you are to ask her out and get to know her better through the people around her will make her feel very comfortable with you.
“I love that my guy consistently makes me feel comfortable whenever we are on a date. No PDA’s, but there’ll surely be some romantic things to come up to ponder about when I get home…”
If it’s not your first date with her, don’t fail to woo her still. Come up with unique ideas that will make her constantly saying YES to all your invitations.