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How to Get Over Someone


I’m sure that anyone who has experienced a break-up can tell you that it is one of the hardest and most painful things to go through, especially if you thought that the person was “the one.” Well, these people can tell you that it is really painful as hell, but, they can also say that it is possible to move on and get over a person – even if you feel that you just want your life to end. All it takes is some time and a little patience with yourself. Plus, following the tips below can also make the process easier for you.

  1. Cut off any communication with the person. No calls, texts, e-mails, chats or anything else. Though it may be tempting to call at the middle of the night when you are overwhelmed by the hurting, or when you say that you just want to hear his or her voice, stop yourself the instant you even think about doing this. Try to be strong and stop yourself from having any false hopes.
  2. Remove anything from your room, house, cubicle, car or apartment that reminds you of the other person. Take out a large box where you can put away pictures of the both of you, the gifts and letters he or she gave you, clothes and other items that belong to him or her, and any other items that were significant to you as a couple. Don’t do anything too dramatic like burning stuff; it’s better to just put them out of sight because maybe in the future you’ll want to see these things again when you don’t feel any bitterness anymore.
  3. Keep yourself busy. Turn to your old hobbies for comfort. Keep yourself engrossed in a project or two so that you have something to keep you from wallowing in loneliness and self-pity.
  4. Write down your feelings. Writing is a good form of therapy. It helps you be more open and assists you in realizing and accepting certain feelings you have to deal with to be able to completely let go of the person.
  5. Try new things. Add some excitement and cheer to your life by joining new organizations or groups or trying out new hobbies or activities you’ve never dared to try before. Doing this will help you feel like a new person and will also boost your self-esteem. Plus, it gives you something to look forward to, and opens up an avenue to meet and socialize with new people.
  6. Spend more time with family and friends. Now is the time to make it up to the people whom you most probably had little time for when you were in a relationship. Visit your parents or relatives and volunteer to organize the next family affair. Call up the gang and invite them over to your house for a get-together. Better yet, schedule your next barhopping night or afternoon coffee time with your friends. They’ll be there to support you all the way.

Aside from these tips, make sure that you have a friend or two with whom you can talk about your feelings with. Your friends will be one of the most important support systems that you will have during this difficult time.

You will notice that little by little, day by day, you will see yourself getting better and moving on. Again, all it takes is a little time and the acceptance of the fact that some things are just really not meant to be.



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