How To Start Dating Again
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
You’ve loved and failed. Now you’re picking yourself up from a breakup and want to date again. Most people go into opposite extremes after a breakup. Some don’t even think twice in dating again and set themselves up for further heartaches. Others are hesitant to meet anyone after being badly burned from a previous marriage. With the following steps, you will be on your way to opening your heart and welcoming love once again. It will also ensure that you won’t have to commit the same mistakes as you did in your past relationship.
Avoid Rebound Dating
People often go into the dating arena even before they have fully recovered from their past relationship. This is very bad because you have a lot of emotional baggage to bring into the new relationship. Take the time to reflect about your feelings. If your ex comes running back to you, will you take him or her back? Do you still feel resentment or anger whenever you think about your ex? If you said yes to the two questions, then take the time to get over your ended relationship before moving on.
Make Your List
The great thing about a relationship that had gone wrong is that you are all the wiser for it. Take advantage of the lessons you have learned from the past and make sure that you don’t commit the same mistakes again. This means taking the time to make a list about what are non-negotiables for you. This means any qualities from an ex that you don’t have to live with. Think about the things that are important for you so that you won’t settle for anything less.
Nurture Yourself
Take the advantage of being single again and do things that you haven’t gotten around to doing when you were still with your ex. This is also a great time to challenge yourself to learn or try out something new. When you nurture yourself, you’ll have a lot more to offer in a relationship. This makes you even more attractive to everyone. Take a new class or learn another language. These are also great venues to meeting other people and finding someone who shares the same interest as you. This will help you find someone you actually enjoy being with.
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